nhp
04-10-2004, 02:50 AM
This is the last place I thought I'd ever ask for advice on women, but alot of people here seem to have good heads on their shoulders.
Here is my problem- I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years, I am 24 she is 21. For the past few weeks we've been kind of rocky, she seems to have changed on me. We spend less time together, and she told me she would like more freedom. I don't mind this at all, in fact it was the other way around a few months ago. I told her I wanted more freedom. After trying to patch things up and spend more time with her, and do nice things for her, she has kind of been pushing me away. This has caused me to lose some interest in our relationship, so I have started eyeing other women. There is this one girl in particular whom I always have thought was beautiful, and recently out of coincidence that I am having trouble with my girlfriend, she has started flirting with me. I have tried talking to my girlfriend, but to no avail. She doesn't want to talk about our issues. I tried asking friends of hers (and mine) who know her pretty well, and they told me just to give her more time, she is going thru a transition now that she is 21. I am tempted to break off our relationship and pursue this other girl, but I have a feeling I might regret it (this has happened before a few years ago, and I did regret it). Everyone is telling me to wait until I am sure I want to break it off, but this other girl might think I am not interested in her. My problem is that I am interested in them both, but would prefer to stay with my girl if we could go back to the way we used to be. I'm not so sure that's ever gonna happen. I am thinking my girlfriend might just end up breaking up with me, and I'm stuck with neither of them. What do you think I should do? Thanks in advance...
Here is my problem- I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years, I am 24 she is 21. For the past few weeks we've been kind of rocky, she seems to have changed on me. We spend less time together, and she told me she would like more freedom. I don't mind this at all, in fact it was the other way around a few months ago. I told her I wanted more freedom. After trying to patch things up and spend more time with her, and do nice things for her, she has kind of been pushing me away. This has caused me to lose some interest in our relationship, so I have started eyeing other women. There is this one girl in particular whom I always have thought was beautiful, and recently out of coincidence that I am having trouble with my girlfriend, she has started flirting with me. I have tried talking to my girlfriend, but to no avail. She doesn't want to talk about our issues. I tried asking friends of hers (and mine) who know her pretty well, and they told me just to give her more time, she is going thru a transition now that she is 21. I am tempted to break off our relationship and pursue this other girl, but I have a feeling I might regret it (this has happened before a few years ago, and I did regret it). Everyone is telling me to wait until I am sure I want to break it off, but this other girl might think I am not interested in her. My problem is that I am interested in them both, but would prefer to stay with my girl if we could go back to the way we used to be. I'm not so sure that's ever gonna happen. I am thinking my girlfriend might just end up breaking up with me, and I'm stuck with neither of them. What do you think I should do? Thanks in advance...