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01-15-2006, 01:23 PM
Can I tell my brother's fiancee to wear a bra?
Updated Thursday, Jan. 12, 2006, at 6:52 AM ET

Dear Prudence,
My brother is engaged to a delightful, bright, attractive woman who does not wear a bra. She has very small breasts, so it's not as if she is falling out of her shirts, but she is always "nippling" (as they say). I don't believe she is trying to be provocative, but after she and my brother leave large social gatherings, there is often talk of the prominent nipple outline she displayed. This upsets me because a) I truly like her, and don't want people to remember her for her chest area, and b) it can be very distracting when one is talking to her; it makes men uncomfortable to see, and it makes our wives even more uncomfortable for their men to see. In general, I don't feel it's anyone's place to criticize another person's attire, but I wonder if there is a tactful way to send a message that we'd appreciate seeing a bit less of her.

—Getting an Eyeful

Dear Get,
Prudie was surprised by two things in your letter: the new word she learned, and that the letter writer was a man! There really is talk that people have trouble averting their gaze from this woman's shirt? In this day and age of letting it all hang out, fashionwise, it is a little unusual to find that a small-busted woman going braless is a distraction. In any case, if you feel you must try to get this woman into a bra, your best bet would be to tell your brother that he might want to suggest underthings to his fiancee because, as things are now, she makes it difficult for people to maintain eye contact. Be prepared for him to tell you to mind your own business.

—Prudie, figuratively


01-15-2006, 06:47 PM
This is funny but this really happened to me. I was dating someone years ago who was so small, mosquito bites were bigger. She never wore a bra and I knew her for years as we were in school together. My mother was offended because of her nipples sticking out, mom told me to make sure she has a bra on when she comes over to visit. I still lived at home at that time. Needless to say, Mom wasn't overly impressed. We eventually split and shortly after I started dating the woman who would become Mrs. DG. And the rest is history.


01-16-2006, 08:49 AM
Snake, them nipples in that picture are a big distraction, but consider the positive side, if she had a harelip, people wouldn't be focusing on that disfigurement.
In this day of bare midriffs, and lo cut jeans.....nipples are considered obscene????????

01-17-2006, 03:50 PM
<blockquote><font class="small">Quote wolfdancer:</font><hr> Snake, them nipples in that picture are a big distraction, but consider the positive side, if she had a harelip, people wouldn't be focusing on that disfigurement.
In this day of bare midriffs, and lo cut jeans.....nipples are considered obscene???????? <hr /></blockquote>

Wolf -

It seems mighty odd to me too. I had a funny thing happen one time on a 227 mile long Grand Canyon kayak trip. There were twenty-three of us kayakers on that trip and the ratio of males to females was about even. First day down the Canyon while in camp a whole bunch of folks stripped to the buff (including the women of course). They pretty much stayed that way except while boating for the remainder of the trip. Fully clothed while on the river - naked while in camp.

At first it felt pretty strange to see all those body parts hanging out in the breeze and it was hard not to stare at the women. But after a few days it stopped seeming unusual and became more or less mundane.

Now, the funny part happened about eight days down the river when the women all decided to put on a fashion show. Turned out that they'd all planned it in advance and had some very nice what-not's stashed away in their dry bags in preparation for the show. That night after dinner they all put on their finest dresses etc. and staged their 'entertainment'.

It WAS entertaining to say the least - what with the bottom of the Grand Canyon being the wilderness that it is and an abysmal shortage of beautiful women much less beautiful women with fine clothes being pretty much the rule and not the exception - we men thoroughly enjoyed the show.

Now for the strange part (or perhaps I should call it the insightful part?): Stark naked the woman had become 'whole' women - I mean - complete people - not particularly sexy - not lurid - not nasty - not just asses and tits - (or nipples) - just regular human beings. It wasn't until they put on their finery that they suddenly looked very sexy again.

Sometimes it's what's covered up and how it's covered up that makes a person sexualy desirable and sometimes it takes them being fully uncovered for a while before you realize that men and women being naked around each other day in and day out isn't quite as wild or lurid as some of us might think it is.


01-17-2006, 07:31 PM
I had a young lady working for me who was would come to work wearing a polo shirt with no bra. She wasn't particularly well endowed, but it was pretty obvious what was and was not under the shirt. My boss told me I had to get the situation taken care of, so I called one of the female managers and asked her to talk with this employee.
In the day of sexual harassment suits, I wasn't going to even consider having that conversation! Call me a chicken, but the situation was resolved, and I kept my job!!
Funny...I can't remember her name...but I remember the shirt! LOL

01-17-2006, 08:39 PM
I agree. Mrs. DG and I have been to nudist resorts and we both felt the same as you. There was no gawking or comments like you would expect, just a bunch of great people.

DG - hoping to go back again this year