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Deeman3
07-16-2010, 08:28 AM
<span style="color: #FF0000">Certainly, some Democrats need to be protected by other Democrats from these type scams. Legislation will soon come on line. /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif </span>




Melinda is a 20-year-old student in Western Pennsylvania who has watched her mother suffer deeply during the past 10 years, losing her husband and her job and waging an intense battle with agoraphobia – fear of public spaces – which progressed to the point where she is essentially homebound.

Now, the 53-year-old woman’s one hope of finding love later in life – the Internet – has turned against her in a cruel way. For the past year, Melinda has helplessly watched as her mom has slowly fallen for a long-distance, online lover who clearly is scamming her. Initially the man, who gave his name as Michael and said he was in Texas, played the part of desperate lover, typing sweet nothings into a chat room and pledging a happy-ever-after life – beautiful homes, cars, luxurious trips. Soon, though, he said he was sent on an emergency trip to Nigeria. Then came a curious request: Michael said he needed $500 so he could leave the country and visit the family in Pennsylvania. Melinda’s mom wired the money to Africa. Then came another request, and another. In all, Melinda thinks her mom wired nearly $10,000 to Michael, each time thinking the payment would enable her lover to visit or help him escape a dire situation. The romance has so financially drained the family that Melinda and her mom have been threatened with foreclosure. Still, Melinda said, her mom continues to wire money to Michael.

“My mother and I have been in many fights about Michael and her sending him money, but she just tells me that I do not want her to be in love or happy,” she said. To this day, Melinda has been unable to find the magic words that might pierce the denial and deception her mom is suffering from. “I am just at a loss for words.”

Msnbc.com has agreed to protect Melinda’s identity, while Melinda has provided a detailed timeline of the year-long tale of seduction, betrayal and family frustration in the hope it may prevent others from being victimized.

As in the real world, the abused lover is often the last to know, said another online love victim, Barb Sluppick. After she fell for an online dupe, Sluppick started a support group for victims called RomanceScams.org. Today, the site has 44,000 members and has tallied more than $11 million lost by victims.

Web lover scams cut especially deep, she said, because they are so easy to commit. The con artists are often in Nigeria, and many maintain relationships with multiple women. By the time victims find their way to RomanceScams.org, they often discover an archive of woman who have received the same photographs and story lines from their con artists.

Since Sluppick started the site five years ago, it has been featured on numerous national television shows, including “The Oprah Winfrey Show.” But the exposure hasn’t alleviated the problem. In fact, she believes the number of victims is continuing to rise – and their stories are becoming more dramatic. One victim Sluppick helped recently had cashed in his retirement fund and sent a con artist more than $1 million during a year-long seduction. Another victim was so engrossed in conversation with her con artist – who continually told her to ignore pleas of family members – that she ignored her own mother’s cries for help during a heart attack. She discovered her mom, dead, several hours later.

Jim Arlt is a special agent devoted to elder scams with the Minnesota Department of Public Safety. He’s heard ever more heart-wrenching stories.

“Here in Minnesota we had a woman who believed she had met someone online, then discovered he wasn’t who he said he was, and after realizing she had given away all her money to this person, she committed suicide and left a note saying why,” Arlt said. He described the problem of elder scams, and romance scams in particular, as “growing exponentially.”

“There’s no focused effort to address it,” he said.

Naturally, most victims are extremely reluctant to admit they’ve been scammed or to publicly speak about the incident, Sluppick said. She has dealt with many family members, like Melinda, who are desperate to break the illusion that controls the victim

Sev
07-16-2010, 10:00 AM
And women wonder why men think they are stupid????

Heres your sign.

Deeman3
07-16-2010, 10:10 AM
The odd thing is that, in the story, she is still sending this person her money!

It is not hard to see how so many are so easily led down the wrong path in many areas. They really, really want to go there! /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif

pooltchr
07-16-2010, 11:24 AM
So if we tell people that the world can be a wonderful place, and we can all get along if we just open dialogue with our enemies, and the poor and downtrodden can have everything they need, and we can all have our dream home, a car in the driveway, enough to live comfortably upon retirement, a chicken in every pot, free healthcare for all, etc, etc....they want to believe it so badly that they will go along with the lies anyone tells them????

Deeman3
07-16-2010, 12:45 PM
As longas you add the free cellphone with 120 minutes a month of "emergency" call time. I was told the "program" which of course is baed on the Having a cell phone is a civil rights issue" started with 15 "emergency minutes" so disadvantaged people could call for help if, for instance, one of their 13 accidental kids was il or they needed help. Of course, at the end of the month, there were no minutes left (Iassume there are many emergencies when you are a babymoma) and they extended it. It has slowly crept up to the present 120 minutes. They are now considering some international "emergency" minutes as we all know how they may have to call during peaks of human rights abuses they face here each month. /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif

Hey, at least this woman had plenty of cash to send her fella. We may be on the line for losses like this in the future if and when "broken hearts" becomes the next human rights issue....

pooltchr
07-16-2010, 01:18 PM
It's not her fault.

In the immortal words of Flip Wilson......"The devil made me do it!"

Steve

Sev
07-16-2010, 01:27 PM
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: pooltchr</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It's not her fault.

In the immortal words of Flip Wilson......"The devil made me do it!"

Steve </div></div>

Stupid is as stupid does. -Forest Gump.

Stretch
07-16-2010, 01:53 PM
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Sev</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: pooltchr</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It's not her fault.

In the immortal words of Flip Wilson......"The devil made me do it!"

Steve </div></div>

Stupid is as stupid does. -Forest Gump. </div></div>

Just think about how stupid the average person is, then reolize that half of them are even stupider! - George Carlin St.

pooltchr
07-16-2010, 02:41 PM
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stretch</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Sev</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: pooltchr</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It's not her fault.

In the immortal words of Flip Wilson......"The devil made me do it!"

Steve </div></div>

Stupid is as stupid does. -Forest Gump. </div></div>

Just think about how stupid the average person is, then reolize that half of them are even stupider! - George Carlin St. </div></div>

Which goes a long way toward explaining how we have ended up with the crew of idiots we have in Washington these days!

Steve

Stretch
07-16-2010, 03:06 PM
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: pooltchr</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Stretch</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Sev</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: pooltchr</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It's not her fault.

In the immortal words of Flip Wilson......"The devil made me do it!"

Steve </div></div>

Stupid is as stupid does. -Forest Gump. </div></div>

Just think about how stupid the average person is, then reolize that half of them are even stupider! - George Carlin St. </div></div>

Which goes a long way toward explaining how we have ended up with the crew of idiots we have in Washington these days!

Steve </div></div>

Ditto for the last admin. St.

hondo
07-16-2010, 05:27 PM
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Sev</div><div class="ubbcode-body">And women wonder why men think they are stupid????

Heres your sign. </div></div>

I personally feel that men who think women are stupid are stupid.
Here's your sign.