View Full Version : Don't Lose The Chance(Sentimental)

07-22-2003, 02:48 PM
Got this from another board and thought that some here might get something good from it...sid

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After 21 years of marriage, I discovered a new way of keeping alive the spark of love.

A little while ago I had started to go out with another woman. It was really my wife's idea.

"I know that you love her," she said one day, taking me by surprise.

"But I love YOU," I protested. "I know, but you also love her."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

"What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to pass some time with you," I responded.

"Just the two of us." She thought about it for a moment, then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.

When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there
staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded. During the dinner we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary - but catching up on recent events of each others life.

We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.

"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.

Some time later I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I was almost sure that I couldn't be there but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the
other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you."

At that moment I understood the importance of saying, in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.

Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."

07-22-2003, 07:19 PM
Sid - good post. While I see my parents everyday(I work for them), my brother died in a car accident 7 years ago. He was 36, married but no children. We never really got along as most brothers do, our life styles were much different. We respected each other but I regret never being able to say goodbye to him. There was a memorial service but no funeral as he was cremated. I never got to see him at the morgue, so there was no closure. I wish I could go back and mend the broken fences, but that will come another day and another time.

DG - who believes (eventually) time heals all wounds

Ralph S.
07-22-2003, 11:24 PM
Excellent story Sid.

07-23-2003, 07:56 AM
Excellent advice to follow. Year before last, instead of flying from Dallas to 'Vegas for the BCA Nationals, I flew my mother to Dallas from Mississippi and we drove the 2700 miles round-trip that week.

On the 3-day drive out (and 2 days back), we explored just about every major (and many minor) sightseeing and historical locations I could find. Grand Canyon, Indian ruins, Painted Desert, Petrified Forest, Hoover Dam, etc. Mom even climbed to the rim of one of the extinct volcanoes in Arizona. Took about 30 minutes to get up there, though, she's 74.

But more than anything else, we just talked and visited. I only get home a couple of times a year now, and it seems I spend most of my time running around and playing pool with my buddies from school. Never regretted this trip, can't imagine a more worthwhile way to use a week's vacation. Might not get that chance again.