Hi all. I used to post frequently about two/three years ago...but haven't been back in quite awhile. There are some great improvements.
That being said, I'm looking for opinions on the article titled "Respect", written by a woman player/guest author in the latest issue of BD magazine. As a female player who should be able to relate, I think she went over the edge (as do many other female players I've talked to). The mental game is so crucial to this sport. It's a person's own fault if they let their opponent get in their head. And most importantly (IMHO), respect cannot be demanded, only earned. At one point, the author (who's name I don't remember off hand) implied she was offended by the fact that her male opponent was not paying attention while she was at the table. Attitude and perception is everything. My attitude would be that it's to his disadvantage to not pay attention because should I foul, he would not be aware of it (not that I would intentionally cheat), and he may discover weaknesses in my game that could aide him in beating me. But that's his problem. I don't need the gratification of having him watch me make every ball. In fact, he could go have a party in the other room for all I care. But when he steps back up to the table and sees that all the balls are gone, I will have earned his repect, and chances are, he'll pay attention next time. If not, oh well. She (the author) seems irritated about some other issues that seem trivial to me as well...which is sad, because (no disrespect intended) an irritated player is often never at their top game. My suggestion to her would be instead of trying to change the attitudes of her male opponents, to work on an achievable...work on changing her reception of their attitudes and begin using it to her favor.